Nuha Kahn writes of “toxic positivity” for The Walrus:
It’s an experience most people can relate to: forcing a smile, holding back tears, saying “I’m fine” when you’re far from it. In a survey by Science of People, over 75 percent of respondents said they had rejected or ignored their emotions in an attempt to be happy.
Trying to live through a glossy Instagram filter can shame us away from experiencing real emotions.
You can read the whole article HERE.
We’ve been taught to separate our emotions by category; happiness is “good,” and almost every other emotion is “bad.” And that’s a mistake.
I’d much rather be happy than sad, but there are times when sadness is the appropriate way to feel. That’s when you lean on your friends.
There’s a line in the Bob Dylan song “Forever Young” that I keep coming back to: “May you always do for others, and let others do for you.” Everybody wants to be in the first category, not the second; but paradoxically, sometimes letting others help you helps them.
(Pete Seeger did an amazing cover of that song, which you can listen to HERE.)