Nuha Kahn writes of “toxic positivity” for The Walrus:

It’s an experience most people can relate to: forcing a smile, holding back tears, saying “I’m fine” when you’re far from it. In a survey by Science of People, over 75 percent of respondents said they had rejected or ignored their emotions in an attempt to be happy.

Trying to live through a glossy Instagram filter can shame us away from experiencing real emotions.

You can read the whole article HERE.

We’ve been taught to separate our emotions by category; happiness is “good,” and almost every other emotion is “bad.”  And that’s a mistake.

I’d much rather be happy than sad, but there are times when sadness is the appropriate way to feel.  That’s when you lean on your friends.

There’s a line in the Bob Dylan song “Forever Young” that I keep coming back to:  “May you always do for others, and let others do for you.”  Everybody wants to be in the first category, not the second; but paradoxically, sometimes letting others help you helps them.

(Pete Seeger did an amazing cover of that song, which you can listen to HERE.)



  1. That last lesson came hard to me, but it’s true

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  2. 💜💜💜💜💜


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