Tag Archives: grief

He’s Here

  “I see him in my dreams all the time.  I hear him when I’m on stage.  I would say I can’t talk to him, but I can.  I don’t miss him, he’s here with me.”  ~Bob Weir, on Jerry Garcia I’m glad he has a connection that endured beyond death.  But I’m envious. The …

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Honors

 “Grief is praise, because it is the natural way love honors what it misses.”  ~Martín Prechtel

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“If not you,”

Excerpted from a book review written by Mairead Small Staid: Isn’t this how we grieve, after all? Not solely for the person gone, for the immense and irreplaceable multiplicity that he was, but also for the fine strand that ran between us, the connection as singular as either of its participants. “Dead is dead, I …

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I love you, I miss you…

Steve Irwin wrote his autobiography, The Crocodile Hunter, in 2001, just a year after the death of his mother.  His dedication to her is heartbreaking: I’m dedicating this book, and my life, to my mum. I loved my mum more than anything in the world. She nurtured, protected, and loved me all my life. Lyn …

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No Place to Go

“Grief is just love with no place to go.” ~ Jamie Anderson

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Suddenly

“We think we no longer love our dead, but that is because we do not remember them: suddenly we catch sight of an old glove and burst into tears.” ~Marcel Proust, in a letter from 1913

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Just For One Day

I used to play this song in the car every day as I drove to visit my mother in the nursing home.  It helped. I would go in her room, and make her smile and sometimes even laugh.  I could raise the spirits of everyone in the room with her.  I could be a hero, …

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That’s the deal.

“It seems to me, that if we love, we grieve. That’s the deal. That’s the pact. Grief and love are forever intertwined. Grief is the terrible reminder of the depths of our love and, like love, grief is non-negotiable.”  ~Nick Cave

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Someone Won’t Be

“It’s hard to turn the page when you know someone won’t be in the next chapter, but the story must go on.” ~Thomas Wilder

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It’s OK to not be OK.

This website is an amazing resource for people who are grieving, or who are trying to help a friend deal with grief:  Refuge in Grief:  It’s OK to not be OK.

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Live Forever

“You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like …

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Not every day.

Howard Stern Comes Again, ©2019, is a collection of transcripts of what Stern considers his best interviews over the last several years.  The excerpt below with Paul McCartney is from January 14, 2009: Howard:  I haven’t spoken to you since George Harrison died. How are you doing with that? That’s got to be major. Paul:  …

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Love Transcends

“I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love. “Though some day …

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Freddie

It’s hard to write a charming children’s fable about death, but Leo Buscaglia gave it his best effort. The Fall of Freddie the Leaf can be read online HERE. (Side note: the linked site does have some troubling, xenophobic aspects to it, mixed in with the more useful stories and content. So be aware.)

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Farley

I remember when Steve Clark, guitarist for Def Leppard, died of alcohol poisoning in 1991.  His bandmates were saddened, of course, but not particularly surprised.  One of them said it was like when your grandmother died:  “You knew she was sick, you knew she was old, you knew she was going to die– but you …

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And I Knew Before I Answered

In this excerpt from Wunnerful, Wunnerful! the Autobiography of Lawrence Welk, © 1971, Welk discusses the grief and disorientation he felt when he lost his mother: It was in Pittsburgh that I got the telegram. “Come home at once. Mother is dying.” I stood holding the telegram in my hands, sick at heart, remembering a …

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We had still duties which we ought to perform…

In this excerpt from Frankenstein; Or, The Modern Prometheus by Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley, ©1818, young Victor Frankenstein mourns the death of his mother: She died calmly, and her countenance expressed affection even in death. I need not describe the feelings of those whose dearest ties are rent by that most irreparable evil, the void that …

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I guess

“I guess by now I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone-– you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.” ~Alyson Noel

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Sam

Even anonymously, behind the shield of a url, it’s hard for me to open up.  I intended for this blog to be a lot more personal, but it ends up being book excerpts and favorite quotes. My wife Mona writes much more from the heart, and I thought she did a good job talking about …

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Grief

I can’t make the BBC embed code work with WordPress, but here’s the link:  LINK If you have eight minutes, it’s a really helpful little video.

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